If you’ve been in a relationship for a while, you can probably look back on the early days when your romance felt new and exciting. When we’re falling in love, we tend to be more adventurous and willing to overlook imperfections because having fun is more important than nitpicking.
After a while, we get comfortable—which is a good and a bad thing. It’s great to feel less self-conscious around our partner but we still need to find ways to stoke the flame and keep the spark alive.
If you feel like you’ve been in a bit of a rut lately, or would like to spice things up, consider having a “spring fling” as a couple. Sure, you’re older and wiser now but that doesn’t mean you can reignite your romance. Here are some suggestions to help you get started.
Ditch the Phones
Many of us can remember a time when our first crushes had to call us on a landline or write us a note. When the first cell phones hit the market, all you could really do with it was make phone calls or send clunky text messages. By the time we were face-to-face with our love interest, though, nothing could have shaken our focus. It was all about living in that moment.
Today, we ignore our partners, our kids, even the road while we’re driving … because we are obsessed with our smart devices. It’s pretty sad in many ways. Therefore, if you do decide to spend some time together, give each other all the attention—just like you used to do.
Focus on Fun
Everyone has their own definition of fun but, hopefully, you can find something that you will both enjoy. Yes, going to dinner and a movie is great but really push yourself to try something outside of your regular routine.
What did you enjoy doing in your younger years? Did you line up for amusement park rides? Hit the ski slopes? Snuggle at the drive-in (yes, these still exist!)? Light up a karaoke bar? Do something that will leave you saying, “I can’t believe we did that!” You’ll be invigorated!
If you have small kids, it might be a bit tricky but try to be a little more spontaneous. Bonus points if you get sneaky and hire a babysitter so that you can surprise your partner with last-minute plans.
This doesn’t have to be anything major, either. It could be as simple as dropping off a treat for your partner at work, grabbing special snacks for an impromptu movie night in bed or taking a drive and exploring the rural areas in your own backyard. Just find ways to keep things interesting.
Take a Weekend Trip
If you can afford to go somewhere for a week, that’s great but you can reap similar benefits from a quick weekend getaway. Keep travel time to a minimum by driving/flying less than three hours so that the trip doesn’t leave you exhausted (especially on the way home).
Choose a destination that will offer what you need. If your day-to-day life is hectic, try something with a slower pace. If you feel like things have become boring at home, head out on an adventure. If your dream is to explore a theme park sans kids, don’t feel guilty. You’re allowed to have fun too.
Don’t Try to Repeat History
You probably have some really great stories from when you and your significant other were just getting to know one another. It might even make you want to try to recreate some of those moments. What you do is entirely up to you but it’s probably best to let that highlight reel from your life continue to exist unblemished.
Chances are, you will never quite recapture the magic of those special times because you are different now. Don’t risk tarnishing a great memory by trying to relive it. Be true to who you are today and blaze a completely new trail. It will be fantastic!
Spring is the perfect time to try a relationship reboot because the energy is so exciting and vibrant. Even if things are going great, make an effort to breathe new life into your romance and have some fun with your partner. Who knows? You might turn it into a yearly tradition.